Let’s Stop Referring to Self-Care as a “Fad”
Hello my lovely readers! I find myself with a lot of time to write lately, so I hope you don’t mind me shoving myself into your Internet spaces! While everyone has been occupied with COVID-19, I’ve been doing a lot of reflection, which has, unfortunately, caused a long thought spiral of ever-present despair. One thing that’s come to light is how we treat self-care.
Since most of you who read my blog know, I have anxiety. I must take meds to control my anxious brain, and sometimes not even that is enough. What has also greatly helped is exploring new hobbies, taking time to myself, sleep, among other things. I am a firm believer in self-care and truly do think it’s wonderful to be selfish, (within reason), in order to give yourself time to just breathe and be you.
Some may treat self-care seriously as I do; taking time to relax, find their happy center, talk about it on social media, anything. Others treat self-care as a fad, something that will pass and to some, that is eye roll worthy. As a master of rolling my eyes at ridiculous things, I implore the latter group to stop referring self-care and self-expression as a such. Fad insinuates that whatever trendy is a nuisance, something that shouldn’t be taken seriously and isn’t worth your time. During these times, I find it helpful to celebrate self-care. It promotes physical, as well as mental well-being. Healthy conversations about every one’s happies is, in my opinion, essential to having healthy discussions and raising children to believe that mental health is indeed, health.
Personally, I’ve found that practicing self-care, as well as talking about it, makes me happier. I love sharing the small things that make me smile with the people who care to know. I love that I get to openly talk about how today, I felt less anxious because I did this. To the people who find it silly, don’t. If self-care is in fact a trend, then be part of the movement that keeps the trend going. Many people are benefitting from practicing open expression and acceptance.
For myself, I’ve really delved into my love for reading. I am the type of person who will go on a long reading stint, only to switch to podcasts, then movies, and back to books. I’ve always felt like I didn’t really belong anywhere because everyone around me seemed fixed in their hobbies and things they enjoyed at any given moment. It’s only recently that I’ve found someone who is like me and knowing that fact has brought great comfort in my quirky self. Practicing self-care through self-acceptance and love is essential to daily life, I’ve found. Something I’ve picked up recently, for example, is yoga. Not only is it low-impact exercise that is less likely to have me spraining an ankle or messing up my shoulder, but it’s relaxing, focusing on what you can do instead of what you can’t physically do. If I’m not reading or indulging in one of my hobbies with Dan Gibson’s “Solitudes” playing quietly in the background, I’m doing yoga. And it, is, delightful.
So instead of posting about the negatives on social medias, I try to focus on the good things that make me happy. Reading, shows, being introverted, yoga, coffee, and my dog. It’s not an end all solution to keep all the negativity out, but it helps me be able to discuss what makes me smile as opposed to letting anxious brain take over. Trust me, there’s plenty to be upset about, but also a lot to be immensely happy about.
So, let’s do that. Let’s cultivate a world of positivity that don’t treat fads as something to be scoffed at or dismissed. Some one else’s happies are not always going to be your happies, and that’s perfectly okay and acceptable. I know I say it a lot, but the more we positively focus on ourselves, the better we will be able to help those around us. Practice in moderation can make a happier environment, and as some one whose mood is greatly influenced by her environment, that’s important. Self-care, and by an extension, mental health, is not a fad. Accept, adapt, grow. Be better, do better, and teach the younger generations that mental health is part of well-being. We all know that we want our little ones to grow up to be something great, but they won’t do that if you set your expectations and their expectations of themselves don’t exactly line up. Life is a cruel device which we must learn to cope with, and letting younger kids explore the range of their happies is important and therefore lead to happier adults.
As always, I do hope everyone stays safe during this trying time. If you are quarantined, practice self-care. Remember, it’s not always going to be conventional, and that’s totally fine. As for me, I’m off to go do some yoga, and most likely remove Dodson from my yoga mat. (He considers himself a sleeping yoga master.) Talk at you guys soon!